How I unwind

I feel like a bit of a fraud writing this as I don’t allow myself ‘me time’ anywhere near often enough, but after chatting to my hubby recently where he pointed out that I don’t prioritise myself in my day to day schedule, and I absolutely should for my own well-being.

How right he is and so I decided that it was time to make time for myself. Even if it’s 10 minutes here and there. It’s just so tempting to try and cram everything I need to get done into the few child-free hours I have on a school day.

I came to realise that actually, I should be scheduling my ‘me time’ into those child-free hours instead of trying claw extra time at the end of the day when all I want to do is sleep but can’t.

So here are some things that I do that helps me to unwind or try and forget about the day’s stresses.

Music

I have music on in the background most of the time as I feel better with background noise (plus I can’t hear noise from outside, which believe me, is a blessing) I wrote a post about music as therapy, previously.

Hot bath

Yes, boring but it’s unusual for me to have a looooong soak without someone hammering on the door needing to poop or needing mummy to catch the spider/ check for monsters/ break up world war three that started over who wanted which quilt. Bath oils/ Lush products and candles preferred but not essential; silence is usually sufficient! 😉

Go for a walk or run

Plantar fasciitis allowing, I love running. Although I’m usually limited to a treadmill these days, it sure just helps to burn off excess energy/negativity.

I love going for long walks whatever the weather. Autumn is my absolute favourite time to be. Outdoors. The crisp leaves, the birds, atmosphere and a perfect temperature; chilly but not cold. The kids love being outdoors too, so everyone’s a winner.

Laptop Time

I have not been very well recently, so I can’t lay all the blame on having a family or piss-poor planning, HOWEVER, I worked out that up until approximately 10 days ago, I hadn’t used the laptop/PC in over 4 months!! 4 months!!! How ridiculous is that?! What on Earth was I thinking? It’s not even like my house suddenly became a pristine show home so what the f*ck was I doing with my life? Oh yeah… existing 🙁 I use my phone. Everyday. It’s like it’s been surgically attached to my hand but it’s not quite the same as curling up all cosy with the laptop and a never-ending supply of hot drinks.

Bullet Journaling

I am completely freaking rubbish at this but I love it! I’ve always wanted to be an illustrator and I’ve been a doodler since I could hold a pencil so ‘permission’ to fanny about with fine liners and markers in the name of ‘organisation’ gets my vote! 😉 Joking aside though, the art of bullet journaling is pure genius so if you want to get all your stuff in one place whilst becoming super organised, productive and creative, then give it a go.

Blogging

Sometimes and then not really at times because myself and blogging have a love/hate relationship depending on my current state of mind. But when I’m in a mood like I am tonight, I could write for hours and hours (and I have done just that tonight). Other times I can’t bring myself to even log in, but I’ve learned that that’s absolutely okay.

Watch a movie 

Again it depends on my mood but I love watching movies of all genres. I’m a huge horror fan but I equally enjoy comedies, love stories, action movies, sci-fi, family films…. you name it.

Catching up with TV

I am a soap junkie; my guilty pleasure. I have an eclectic taste in most things and TV is no exception. I love period dramas like Victoria, Real life/reality shows, comedy shows and I am a big fan of The Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, Doctor Who, Lucifer, House – to name a few.

I also love to watch hospital shows, real life or not… I just love them. I didn’t care that One Born might scare the shit out of me when I was 8 months pregnant, I just had to watch. I also like parenting/lifestyle shows like Supernanny, the 3 day Nanny, obsessive-compulsive cleaners – probably because I’m so bloody nosy!

If anyone has recommendations for new things to watch please let me know!

YouTube

Similarly to TV, I subscribe to hundreds of channels covering all sorts. Beauty, parenting, food, tech, people who make me smile, weep or laugh….you name it. I’ll write a post on my favourite YouTubers as there are soooo many that I love to watch.

Snuggle up with my hubby and or children

I have come to realise that there is absolutely no shame in bundling into the ‘big bed’ in the middle of the afternoon for a nap or to lay together watching movies. In actual fact, I think it’s an occasional necessity.

How do you unwind?

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Rays of light through the darkest clouds

I feel like I should apologise for the radio silence recently. I had the Summer ‘off’ so I could concentrate on my family, but since then I’ve been going through some hard times mentally speaking. I won’t go into a long dramatic post about it all but I felt compelled to write in celebration of the good bits.

I honestly started to think that his was just ‘me’ now and feeling like this was just going to be my life, with regular panic attacks thrown in for good measure. I think I’ve forgotten how to see the positive things day-to-day, or perhaps I see them but I just don’t notice them.

On Monday I decided a bit of retail therapy would do me good. Fresh air, away from the same four walls and the negativity that fuels the storm in my head. I had a really nice time on my own. I bought myself some bargain clothes in the sale and pottered around, looking for ideas for Christmas presents.

On the way home, I felt a bounce in my step and an unfamilar warmth. It felt good and as I sat down on the bus, I realised that I. Was. Actually. Smiling. Not a fake smile to be polite and pretend, but a genuine life-is-good, happy grin.

I had noticed the little things around me. A robin dancing across the fences, a couple holding hands, a little girl skipping along; the sun shining even though the clouds where grey and threatening rain. I suppose it was a mini epiphany – it’s the little things sometimes, isn’t it?

I almost felt like the old me again.  Just for a little while.

Let me be clear. I am not saying that a shopping spree ‘cured’ me, because oh my God, I am nowhere near it. But I just think that it’s important to focus on the positive, no matter how small and insignificant it might seem. Can’t even believe I’ve typed that sentence, to be honest.

Life came tumbling back down to Earth with a bump when I returned to familiar surroundings, passing the ‘negativity in my life’ as I went. It was an unwelcome reminder of the darkness I often feel but I was determined that it wasn’t going to rain on my parade.

Monday was a good day. And I’ll take that.

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Walking is good for my soul…

.....But not so much for my sole! *badum tish* Stay with me.... I'll get to the point :lol:

Apparently it’s Walk To Work Month… who knew?

Do you walk a lot? I don’t drive so I tend to walk everywhere anyway.  On an average day I probably walk about 8 miles outside of the house. I’ve always walked everywhere, even as a teenager – I love it.

Obviously, it’s good for you. The fresh air (sort of), the exercise, the surroundings – nature and the outdoors definitely does wonders for my state of mind. I find it relaxing yet exhilarating (except when it’s blowing a gale – I hate windy weather… rain, storms – no problem, but wind? Just NO!)

Most of my photography is taken outside – the World is a beautiful place and we’d notice it more if we were to Just. Slow. Down.

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Love being outdoors, especially this time of year. So beautiful #woods #nature🍃 #ukblogger

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When my children were younger I’d scoop them up into their wrap, and wear them on family walks…the wonder in their eyes was magical to see, there’s nothing quite like it. I really miss babywearing! The kids have always walked to school, whatever the weather. I think it’s good for them too and they’ve never questioned it as they’ve always done it.

We love to go for long walks in the woods too – so much to see and experience. Much needed time away from screens and the internet could not be better spent if you ask me. If I could do it every day, I would.

Unfortunately, all this lovely walking has its downside. Especially when you run as well. Over the past 8 years or so I’ve suffered from occasional Plantar fasciitis; or thickening/inflammation of the plantar fascia. However for the past 2 months, it’s become chronic pain that lasts all day. It’s just not feasable for me to rest, so the ligament struggles to heal, resulting in me hobbling about like Hopalong Cassidy. By the time the day is over, I can be found practically crawling around on my hands and knees. It also caused me to have Sciatica which I believe was due to the way I had to walk/limp. Not nice at all.

I have a night brace (which has to be the most uncomfortable thing to try to sleep in) which stretches out the plantar fascia overnight. I also have the most fantastic foot wrap that supports my arch and the plantar fascia as I walk; coupled with a memory foam heel wedge that I wear in my shoe. A great big pain in the…..well, foot. But it does seem to be allowing the ligament to heal again. Thank the Lord! I’m not the best patient…. not because I’m a wimp or whine a lot, but because I just don’t have flipping time to be injured! 😆 I’m sure most of you are with me on that one!

So, if you are ever unfortunate to suffer from this painful condition, I highly recommend a foot wrap that is designed to support the plantar fascia –  it’s literally changed my life! (yes, slightly dramatic, but it has!)

Do you or have you suffered from foot pain of any kind? What helped you?

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